I feel that we tend to progressively reprove and to some extent, scathe ourselves. As if by installments, we 'pay' our well-being with pessimism as we grow up. "I feel so useless. I really can't do it (subjective). Life sucks now." Ring a bell? Surprisingly, and good for me, the number for times I've raved about how life sucks is only probably less than ten times. Ever since I became mellow (my guess is around 11 years old), I learned to always try to keep a rosy outlook on life. Because to me, life still goes on no matter what. Well of course, I could say that in a fit of disappointment, anger and grief. But if I really mean it, the next question to myself is: Okay, what then? Experts said that one's speech affects the rest of one's body parts and also the central nervous system. So by constant negative speech, one could be potentially bringing more harm to his/her well-being. Nope I'm not acting like I'm a saint because like everyone else, I could be extremely downhearted at times. But Thank God, just as I thought that we become more shoddy as we grow up in life, He made me grasp the concomitance between responsbilities and age. From infancy to adulthood, our responsibilities in life multiply manifoldly, and that accretion doesn't need anyone's consent. Say compare the decision-making processes, thoughts and feelings involved between before and after you started taking allowance. Before I started taking allowance in primary one, I didn't know drinking that extra can of milo would mean one chocolate ice cream cone less after school so I leanred to be more mindful with spending. Before I entered university, I didn't know I have to plan for my own course; the multitude of frustrations and considerations was not domestic in secondary and junior college. Before I started working, I didn't know how big an influence are the relationships at workplace; I didn't know I have to be diplomatic even with people whom I'm not exactly fond of. We are often caught offguard when we are placed in a new setting; newfangled problems and worries come hand in glove with the dissimilar settings. When things don't go our way, we tend to put ourselves down. But hey dudes, look at how many freaking things we have in our lives now! I once told someone,
"When you were in primary school, you hadn't joined the school team (sports) and didn't have to plan for the church camps. When you were in secondary school, you didn't have to take two more A'level S papers or teach tuition, you hadn't joined the national team. When you were in junior college, you didn't have to lead worship at church and you didn't have to coach. When you were in the national service, you didn't have to worry about the university fees and plan your spending wisely with that yearly allowance, you didn't have to worry about taking up a part-time job, you didn't have to worry that your younger sisters would go astray, you didn't have commitments like extra sports, dance and band group in hostel. Add all the extras from primary school till now together, quite a great deal huh?"
My point is...you can't expect to handle things as well as you usually do at all times. Note: at all times. We weren't so busy in the past. We didn't have so much commitments in the past. We didn't have to worry so much in the past. It's not because we are useless or become lousier at handling things, it's because we are imperceptibly moving out of our comfort zones. We lose our focus sometimes because we need to diversify our attention on many different things. But I believe we can be resilient, we will become much stronger and better persons after each setback and each comedown (: Moving out of our comfort zones is not like falling off a log; it's not bidding goodbye to mummy and daddy, it's saying...I'm getting ready to take on life like a warrior (:
"When you were in primary school, you hadn't joined the school team (sports) and didn't have to plan for the church camps. When you were in secondary school, you didn't have to take two more A'level S papers or teach tuition, you hadn't joined the national team. When you were in junior college, you didn't have to lead worship at church and you didn't have to coach. When you were in the national service, you didn't have to worry about the university fees and plan your spending wisely with that yearly allowance, you didn't have to worry about taking up a part-time job, you didn't have to worry that your younger sisters would go astray, you didn't have commitments like extra sports, dance and band group in hostel. Add all the extras from primary school till now together, quite a great deal huh?"
My point is...you can't expect to handle things as well as you usually do at all times. Note: at all times. We weren't so busy in the past. We didn't have so much commitments in the past. We didn't have to worry so much in the past. It's not because we are useless or become lousier at handling things, it's because we are imperceptibly moving out of our comfort zones. We lose our focus sometimes because we need to diversify our attention on many different things. But I believe we can be resilient, we will become much stronger and better persons after each setback and each comedown (: Moving out of our comfort zones is not like falling off a log; it's not bidding goodbye to mummy and daddy, it's saying...I'm getting ready to take on life like a warrior (: